5 Ways to Deal With Toddler Tantrums

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See that picture there? That’s my son (3 dodging the ball) and my nephew (2 standing behind him) playing catch, well sort of lol. They get along pretty well besides a few downfalls but what child is perfect honestly? How do you deal with tantrums when they occur? The word NO is usually the start of my day; this word can be a bit tedious to everyone in the household and can get to be quite the bad start of the day. I developed a little list of things I do when the weight of the world is on my shoulders some days.

 

1. Time out

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The first way you can deal with a toddler throwing a tantrum is the old face the wall trick.  Some time out usually corrects the problem, 5-10 minutes. Facing the wall has been every child’s fear in daycares, home, or even at a family event where they act up and have to have their backs against everyone. Give this a good 3 to 5 months. When they do something wrong just ask them do you want to face the wall again? I can guarantee the answer will be no and they’ll cut it out.

 

2. Limit unhealthy snacks and eating habits will change

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Cut back on unhealthy snacks like candies or chips and replace them with a fruit or veggie instead to promote healthy eating. Munching on a bag of lays is great, but you’re doing more harm than good by pleasing your tot. I know this because I was guilty of it and my son would simply not eat dinner! Occasionally and in moderation unhealthy snacks can be given but limit to once a week to prevent obesity and health issues. Try something healthier, like fruits…

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Grapes are my sons favorite he goes gaga for grapes haha. Start making an effort to enforce these rules and cut the bad foods out. If dinner is not eaten, then it will be heated up on the stove the next day and that will be breakfast. If he doesn’t eat anything I give him a little water and send him off with no juice or anything until morning comes when he wakes up very hungry. Morning arrives and there waiting for him is the plate from last night heated up by yours truly. After 2 weeks of this he now is eating 85% of his dinner compared to the 0%, because he realizes, things won’t go his way, he has to eat what he’s given.

 

3. No sharing, no toys for you

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If they don’t play nice, take away that toy for a while till they learn to share. When my son his cousins play together, I tend to hear the gimmee screams coming from the living room. When I go see what the problem is, the younger one is taking a toy and my son is trying to get it back. If no sharing is going to be an issue, then simply take the toy way from both of them. Eventually they will learn that if they don’t learn to take turns, no one will have fun. Try reading some books together, I love the Berenstain Bears collection, I buy their DVD’s and play it for them. Life lessons are learned and it’s very educational along with Arthur.

 

4. No hitting is allowed

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If you have a problem child on your hands who tends to hit for fun; separate them from the fun and make them stand in a corner. Whenever you see them try to strike someone simply ask them, “Do you want to go to timeout”? This is one place every child knows and they instantly respond, no mommy (or) daddy. If you see them stop then they will soon get it, it just takes determination. If they still resist, take away a privilege they enjoy doing for the rest of the day.

 

5. What do you do about yelling?

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Timeouts won’t really help here. You have to level yourself with the toddler and ask why they are doing that. If they are playing a game tell them to use inside voices or to go outside and play in the backyard. Problems fixed in 1, 2, 3. Try your best to level yourself; don’t yell back because things get worse.

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These are ways to deal with toddler tantrums when it’s too much. Some days the wall doesn’t work and the wailing continues and I tell him, go to bed and take a nap. I check on him in 5 minutes and ask him if he’s going to be a good boy, he usually says yes, I let him out, and voila, the peace is kept. Keep your head up parents you’re doing a great job!

Don’t forget to checkout my other blog post about What Makes Toddlers Awesome :)

~Linda

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  • Guest

    Hi Linda, first of all great article really enjoy the insights you gave on how to effectively deal with tantrums. I have a question that woman can help me with; I have a beautiful 2yr old little boy by the name of Nicholas. Nicky has long hair and often i get dirty looks specially from older women regarding the length on my sons hair they often “confuse” him for a girl even though he is clearly dressed as a boy. How do I respectfully tell them to mind their own business and how long should i let it grow? I love his bouncy curls (his curls put Shirley Temple to shame LOL), any advice and also do you know any hair product safe for kids to use other than gel that keep his curls intact? Thank you!

  • Magnolia De La Cruz

    Hi Linda, first of all great article really enjoy the insights you gave on how to effectively deal with tantrums. I have a question that I could use help with. I have a beautiful 2yr old little boy by the name of Nicholas, that has long hair (mid back when wet, a wild curly afro when dry) and often i get dirty looks specially from older women regarding the length on my sons hair, they often “confuse” him for a girl even though by the way he is dressed one can truly see that he is a boy. How do I respectfully tell them to mind their own business and also how long should i let it grow? I love his bouncy curls (his curls put Shirley Temple to shame LOL). Any advice and also do you know any hair product safe for kids to use other than gel that keep his curls intact? Thank you!

    • http://thinklikelinda.com/ Linda De La Cruz

      Hi Magnolia! I appreciate you reading my article your little boy sounds adorable! I’m actually going through the same thing with my 3 year old son, his hair is very curly and getting long too! I understand what you’re going through and how annoying it must be to explain he is a boy. All I do is laugh it of and rub in quotes like “oh you mean my handsome boy, hes 3”! Makes them apologize and turn there head around lol, and to tame his hair I use baba de caracol conditioner. It leaves his hair detangled and much more manageable. As for length you can let it grow as long as you’d like until he becomes of age and begins complaining lol. But lately ive been noticing more boys with ponytails and in my opinion I love it and it is so adorable! Thanks for writing and don’t mind those who arent used to a boy with long hair, times are changing and soon people will open their eyes!^_^